Not a day goes by when I don't read a story, see a forum comment or hear a live conversation about the drama that is involved in getting married. Rarely, do I hear someone say something positive about their wedding planning experience or about how they are feeling themselves learn and grow as they move towards marriage. Generally its complaints about the stress involved in planning a wedding and the hard time they are getting from family, bridesmaids, in laws.
Getting married is a process of change and it affects everyone close to the people involved. Their lives are affected and dynamics are shifting. People become unsettled and uncomfortable with change and especially in the UK, don't or can't express it. Instead, they behave badly and cause argument and hurt.
Getting Married is about so much more than a perfect, happy wedding day. It is about separation, loss, letting go, saying good bye, ends and new beginnings. It isn't easy-it requires, contemplation, communication and understanding on everyone's part for it happen smoothly.
Coaching can help with this massively. Coaching is always helpful at times of transition so that the individual can come to terms with what is happening, prepare for the change and embrace all that it entails.Then they will be able to help the people around them cope and understand it too. My article Dealing with the Drama of Getting Married explains this in a little more depth to help people at least get to grips with why so much conflict and confusion happens at this time.
Communication is the name of the game AND being a kind and generous bride.
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