Just Another Contemporary Wedding Myth

This week every newspaper has reported on the fact that weddings are now so expensive that many couples are cancelling or postponing for a long time. This is sad. Getting married is a decision in your HEART-and yet people are changing their minds based on whether they can have the wedding of their dreams or not-which shows where their values lie. It seems that if they can't have a wedding to end all weddings then they don't want to have one at all. How crazy is this?!When did the size and grandeur of a wedding become so much more important than the actual act of getting married

Perhaps, in the long run-this is a good thing. Less faux marriages-less divorces. Less people doing it just for the day. Maybe this is how we sort out the wheat from the chaff-those that really want to be married. Those that do just want to make a public and legally binding commitment to each other-progress, develop and evolve together as husband and wife will find a way of doing it that they can happily afford.


Who says it has to cost £18,500? Personal style can't be bought-it's just in you and having restricted funds can make you extraordinarily creative and resourceful. Putting together a low-even no budget wedding can be real fun!

On the other hand trying to keep up with the latest trends as featured in websites like The Knot isn't fun at all. This is precisely what causes panic and pressure. This is what some brides think they must live up to and they feel inadequate,like they are failing in some way if they can't. The issue has been clouded so much that for many people the real point of a wedding has been well and truly lost. It's almost as if the sub text of a marriage proposal is actually, 'will you have a wedding day with me?' Oh yes, yes I will comes the reply and almost immediately the fantasising and obsessing begins.

If you really want to get married and are genuinely distraught about the cost of things you can take heart. It's only commercial, conventional, aspirational weddings that cost so much. It's more than possible to get married on a shoestring and it will be intimate , personal and beautiful with the true spirit of the day free to shine through. Instead of seeing your financial restrictions as an obstacle, look on it as a challenge.

The most stunning and memorable weddings are those that are rich with intention and love and they come for free.