It's gotta be you, wonderful you

On Dirty Dancing -Time of Your Life one of the judges comments towards a young dancing couple was that she couldn't see who they were-she felt she knew nothing about them. In other words, they weren't expressing their personalities through their dancing, they were revealing nothing of their inner world. Their passion, hearts and souls were hidden, their dancing was fine on the outside but lacked depth and substance to captivate and move the audience.

Later, that day on the X Factor, Simon Cowells' comments to a young female singer were the same. He said, 'I don't know who you are', meaning that she wasn't allowing her true self to be seen and connect with the audience. It's simply not enough to have a good voice or be a good dancer, there needs to be charisma, star quality and a magnetic, real person shining through to make people care about and remember you.

I place a lot of importance on being who you are. On the road to your wedding day, there is a great opportunity to find out more about who you are so that you may bring a whole person to your wedding day and into your marriage.

For any kind of personal success, it's essential to be who you are and as a bride on your wedding day, it's not enough to go through the motions, to be how you think others expect you to be or to try and impress. For a truly fulfilling and memorable experience you need to bring your individual self to the table and connect with what you are doing. Or, you may just find that like the judges watching the performers, you are left with an empty, flat feeling that causes you great problems further down the line.

Don't be that bride! The one that can't even remember her wedding ceremony or who looks back on the day as if she were role playing in some kind of dream. Be the one that sings her own song, dances to her own tune and spend the months before you marry getting to know yourself like you've never done before.

You'll be glad you did.

I place a lot of importance on being who you are. On the road to your wedding day, there is a great opportunity to find out more about who you are so that you may bring a whole person to your wedding day and into your marriage.

For any kind of personal success, it's essential to be who you are and as a bride on your wedding day, it's not enough to go through the motions, to be how you think others expect you to be or to try and impress. For a truly fulfilling and memorable experience you need to bring your individual self to the table and connect with what you are doing. Or, you may just find that like the judges watching the performers, you are left with an empty, flat feeling that causes you great problems further down the line.

Don't be that bride! The one that can't even remember her wedding ceremony or who looks back on the day as if she were role playing in some kind of dream. Be the one that sings her own song, dances to her own tune and spend the months before you marry getting to know yourself like you've never done before.

You'll be glad you did.