Monday 1 October 2007

What is Authentic?


People sometimes look at me blankly when I talk about an authentic wedding. Perhaps it's the context that I am using it in. 'Authentic' means genuine, honest, true, real;of undisputed origin. So, an authentic wedding will be something that has comes from the core of who you are. It will express aspects of yourself, your personality and what matters to you in your life. It will reflect your style, convey your intentions and represent who you both are as people and as a couple. Most importantly, it will be a day that you feel connected to and a wedding that is related to you.

An authentic wedding is a creative act and not a commercial endeavour. There is great pleasure to be had from putting it together and I want to help and inspire people to take this route when they are on the precipice of planning it for themselves.

Lets push aside this idea that wedding planning must be a nightmare turning the majority of brides into emotional wrecks unable to remember huge chunks of their day as the wedding nerves grip and take over completely. Why do people settle for that?

In order to be authentic, it is necessary to know yourself and increase your self awareness so that you can confidently and clearly make the choices that come from within you and not from outside of you; yes, from the Inside Out! It is only when you begin to apply this approach that you realise just how much it can give you in terms of enjoyment and fulfilment and if more people were to go about it in this way it could begin to be seen as something to look forward to and not something to dread.

Surely, life is about getting the most out of these great experiences that make up the stories of our lives-otherwise, really what's the point?

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

You and I are clearly soul sisters.

Weddings should reflect the people getting married. If you don't have that, you don't have a successful wedding, no matter what the marriage is like afterwards.

If you don't recognize yourself in your wedding, you're doing it wrong.

lesley said...

Beautifully and simply put. So, many brides say that it just didn't feel like them on their wedding day because there is nothing for them to connect with and they don't recognise themselves in the midst of this remote thing they created.

Thanks so much for your input-it's made me very happy.